THE EVENT THAT CHANGED MY LIFE
Born February 1960 as Anthony, (named after my great grandfather who was Antonio) the short name Tony stuck.
I was the eldest of three boys and we grew up in Wollongong on the South East coast of NSW Australia. Which was a middle/lower class, industrial, mostly caucasian locality with a large migrant population.
We were raised as Devout Catholics which in the local rough neighbourhood caused some problems fitting in.
Although our parents were loving, they imposed a lot of morality on us about being Good boys and always being polite, nice, tolerant and respectful of others. This meant we were often teased and bullied for being too soft and were told it was wrong to fight back in self-defence.
Can you imagine the suppressed Anger and deep frustration I carried inside my polite exterior?
It had to go somewhere and after getting into some big fist fights at a school where all that pent-up anger needed to be released and nearly killing a couple of bullies I decided not to get Angry again. This decision had devastating consequences as all that rage turned inward and only occasionally showed itself on the sports field.
After an injury to my ankle playing basketball, I was unable to walk for 6 months as my foot swelled up every time I started walking on it.
The final result of this scenario meant exploratory surgery and the discovery of an infection in my heel bone(osteomyelitis).
As I was returned back to the orthopaedics ward after having the bone extensively scraped I looked at my heavily bandaged foot with a large plastic drainage tube coming out. This was not a pretty sight as the infected bone marrow was seeping out and I was also getting a blood transfusion. I had a shock reaction as my Blood pressure plummeted and I became cold and numb all over.
I was about to have a near death experience.
As the nurse ran off to get blankets and tell the doctor this icy cold feeling moved quickly from my feet up to my head and I called out for help but no words came out of my mouth. I was powerless and terrified and knew I was going to die.
Next thing I knew I was tumbling backwards as my spirit flew out of my physical body and hovered up in the upper corner of the room.
SUDDENLY I FELT AWESOME!!!. It was so amazing to be watching everything and feel no pain or concern about anything after being terrified only moments ago.
It was blissful
I became aware of many things. My spirit was much bigger in size than my body. My sense of sight and hearing and feeling was much greater and I was being filled up with a calm peaceful energy. I became aware that there was more than one room I was in and I could exist in another space yet aware of everything going on around me at the same time.
While all this was happening a very wise, loving being, spoke to me and told me via thoughts that I would be fine and I would make a full recovery and that my healing journey had just started. In this timeless space, he told me he knew me very well and we were deeply connected and he would always be with me and my life was all about healing. He told me some things that would happen in the future which all occurred as I recovered.
The love that I felt was so beautiful and eternal and unconditional.
I did not want to leave this feeling but his love gently pushed me back down into my frail sick body and some of his love and energy came with me as I regained consciousness.
This feeling lasted for three days and my mother who had been watching me as I slept said I was smiling in my sleep and looked peaceful for the first time in many months.
This happened when I was 16 and It took many years to understand what had happened. Back then when I told people what I experienced they were either puzzled or looked at me in a patronizing way as if to say it was the effect of the anaesthesia from the operation and it wasn’t real.
The gift I received ignited a fire inside which was a passion to understand what the afterlife is about? Why are we here? How can I get the maximum benefit out of this short time here in this physical body? How can I share this to help others discover for themselves what I experienced?
That we all have a physical body that ages and will die, yet we also have a spirit that is vast, incredible and immortal.
So nearly Forty-five years later I have studied much, worked in hospitals, assisted people as they died and learned a whole range of Natural healing modalities.
From Herbal medicine, Naturopathy, Massage, Reiki, Homeopathy, Shamanic Healing, Yoga, Tai Chi, Traditional Chinese Medicine, Ayurveda, Meditation, Relationship Counselling, Emotional Freedom Technique, and life coaching.
I’m still an ordinary guy with all the needs, wants, hopes and dreams that regular people have but deep inside I also have this knowing that this life is temporary and death is the most beautiful change for us to embrace.
This makes this world and all its hardships and disappointments much easier to deal with.
Although I’ve had tough times to cope with like everyone else, I still can see the hidden gift in it all. I’ve also had some incredible teachers who lovingly kept reminding me that I’m the creator of this dream we call life and I’m not a victim. I’m an amazing creator just like everyone else.
My greatest teachers are the people I treat who have shared their lives in a very personal way with me and have challenged me to stretch higher and dig deeper when life turns crappy.
My four kids who I love and appreciate deeply have also been amazing teachers and still are by just being themselves.
I have also learned to practice truly listening to people rather than assuming I know what’s wrong with them and jumping to conclusions or trying to fix them when they don’t need fixing.
There are many things I don’t know yet but the journey of self-discovery just keeps getting better and better and I’m excited about what lies ahead.
After all, None of us get out of this life alive so let’s get the maximum benefit while we are here.